It was really an interesting read. Not in the way that I get to know smth new about the T*rouble but it's like a small instruction: what to say and how to desribe this stuff not even to common people but to doctors as well. Actually it's quite good and offense many things that was written on some @resistance site@ - can you believe it? The site that gives instructions to actually stop being gay or TS or both! LOL. To be honest seems like things were written the same pattern but with different goals at the end. Then you really get confused how practically the same info can be reverted to both say "yes" and "no" on one topic (depending what site it is on). -_-
That was an interesting read a bit long for me I can honestly but not proudly say I usually get bored of reading peoples links before they are finished but this one held my flea like attention span thanks for sharing.
Well now I feel bad about myself. I like the "androgynous" look, but am I perpetuating a negative stereotype (It's a trap) just by looking the way I do? The article had great points, but now I'm just confused even further about myself in general. I'm too passive for so much of this... I only really act when I have no other choice, especially on choices I'm unclear on in the first place. So do I just stay stuck in limbo while I keep getting told how handsome I am by my mom while people who don't know me say how pretty I am? Grahhhhh... I'm starting to wish I could just have no gender and be DONE with it entirely. Maybe I'm just agender and hate that my mother seems to expect to me to "grow up" one day and start looking more like her "son".
I don't think there's anything wrong with being androgynous, as I don't really think that's "trap" behavior. Because it doesn't sound like you're doing it to "trick people". To me, it sounds like you're doing to be comfortable and happy. If it happens to make people think something other than what you're going for, it's not as though you're actively trying to trick them. Rather, they're just making assumptions themselves, and that's not your fault. ^_^
I have to admit that there's something that bugs me about her #6 point. Although I agree with the sentiment I wouldn't, personally tie it to genitalia. Of course that viewpoint may well be unique to me and I clearly agree with what she's getting at. (Repeating this is intentional.)
It may seem strange to many transgirls, and I understand why they would consider it strange, but my problem with my issues with my desire to be a women have never had anything to do with what's between my legs. It's the other, smaller things that bug me. Being too tall, too large in general, facial hair, body hair in general, male clothing (yuck), of course the thing I hate most is the expectations, the assumption that I must be tough and rigid and MANLY at all times. That I have to put on a front, a disguise of machismo that falls so ridiculously flat and more often than not has gotten me beaten up anyway. More often than not, by my brother who cannot abide anything that he views as unmanly. (Yet, I'm the one who watches Football. Go figure... )
This is just one of many things that confuses me about myself and it's a massive stumbling block that I keep running into. It just seems, from my perspective, that so much of the transculture seems to revolve around the notion of SRS. And it's just not even something I'd ever consider, and somehow I've always felt this stigma that it made me less of what I feel inside when nothing could be further from the truth.
I hope this doesn't stem into too much information territory, but I really need to say this and say it publicly because there might be others who feel like I do.
Oh and I don't feel brave right now. If anything, every word posted here was done with me shivering with fright and apprehension. So now I guess I understand why there's the objection to that. Although, I admittedly felt anyone who came out of the closet was very, very brave. But only because I'm pretty entrenched in my closet.