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RAIN p136 - Not a Word by JocelynSamara RAIN p136 - Not a Word by JocelynSamara
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The night just got awkward and they're not even AT the party yet... hoo boy...

A friendly word of advice to any cisgendered people who have transgendered friends: if you ever - for whatever reason - plan on crossdressing publicly with them around, please make sure you clear it with them beforehand. That might sound silly to you, but while some transsexuals might be totally fine with it, others may be deeply offended. It’s wise to just make sure you know where your friends stand.

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CuriousViolet Featured By Owner Aug 18, 2013
I think it's remarkably sensitive of Jocelyn to make this point, but it could be made plainer.  A MTF worried about passing spends every second comparing herself to others.  A friend crossdressing for fun or excitement or exotic thrill is likely to feel it is "joining" up with the MTF but the opposite is more the case - since it's easier to understand (from the outside) the motives of the crossdresser than the TS, the TS feels the significance of her presentation (a deeply profound expression of sense of self, serious business!) put on the same level, and worse yet, gets the impression that her friend doesn't understand her at all.  One of the instincts of a MTF is to keep their distance from others who crossdress for non-Gender identity reasons.  In fact if you are like me, you may want to keep some distance even from other TS's in early stages of attempting to pass in public - it can reawaken some painful memories, and it can make it easy for a long time TS to be read or suspected. (Myself = 24 years post-transition)
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Ryu890 Featured By Owner Aug 30, 2012
:) The key here, is to imagine things from the other's perspective. Does Rain REALLY think a supportive, if a tad weird, like Rudy would openly mock her?
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Lomablen Featured By Owner Jun 5, 2012
I didn't really expect Rudy to be like that, but it goes well whit his attitude. xD
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Ryu890 Featured By Owner Mar 25, 2012
*shrugs* I have a strong dislike of arbitrarily limiting oneself. Just because I am transgendered, shouldn't limit other's 'right' to crossdress for other reasons, be it comedy or sexual pleasure.

On that note, I still pee standing up for the time being. In the end, it IS more convenient...for now anyways. I plan on going through the whole SRS process down the line...but thats really more for the sake of passing....

Pbbb....I HAVE complex thoughts on the matter....I'm just nervous about offending people. ^^; Not sure how to share my thoughts.
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PerilsOfRosella Featured By Owner Aug 8, 2012  Professional General Artist
I agree. I am not transgender, but I don't see how it's offensive to cross dress. I identify as female, and was born female, but enjoy occasionally crossdressing. What difference does it make? How is it hurting someone else?

This particular situation in the comic is a little more tender, as we are dealing with teenagers, but still... is Rudy not allowed to explore his own sexual identity?

In regards to your personal comment, I would do the same thing in your situation. :3
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Ryu890 Featured By Owner Mar 25, 2012
....

I acctually said that.

Seriously. I am NOT thinking clearly tonight. >_<
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UsagiKnight Featured By Owner Nov 13, 2011  Student Traditional Artist
Shame to say, it happened to me once. I was trick or treating once with a friend who brought a friend who brought a friend and that was the guy who crossdressed for Halloween. I can admit I was a little hurt, and since i didn't come out at that time no one really understood why I didn't want to speak. Ultimately it was my little sis who reassured me, saying he can never compare to me. That was really sweet to hear to be honest. But again, I'm not here to shoot down people's fun because I'm a little offended, I just have to reassure myself I guess. But as you pointed out, if its someone you personally know, you do want to have a little curtousy. But hopefully that never happened to you, but knowing you it must have happened in some way, hope you weren't too hurt?
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RevivedDragon Featured By Owner Nov 6, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
Ah, when a girl doesn't say a word, you know she's angry...
... weird, I don't say a word when I'm angry...
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neotruekaiser Featured By Owner Oct 24, 2011
i think rain may be pissed because rudy did such a great job on a one time costume and rain works at it all the time..
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