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RAIN p.92 - Burden by JocelynSamara RAIN p.92 - Burden by JocelynSamara
(Very early. But this may be the only chance I have to be online today, so I'll take what I can get.)

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Here’s a fun fact that a lot of folks don’t realize - or at least, won’t accept - about transgendered people: for most of us, if we could just NOT be transgendered, we would. Although I hesitate to call it an entirely horrible experience in every way, it IS painful, troublesome, lonely and just generally unfortunate to have to be like this.

I’ve heard a lot of cisgendered people who seem to insist that we can just turn it off and stop being transgendered at any time (not much different from the argument that “being gay is a choice” really). But if someone’s never been in a situation like that or had such feelings, how can they make a claim like that and call it fact?

I mean, you wouldn’t trust someone’s opinion on a movie if they never saw the movie, right?

Just some food for thought, I suppose.

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VixTheNinthFox Featured By Owner Sep 22, 2014  New member
i'm both transgendered AND pansexual as well as having a girlfriend when i'm mtf, so much fuel for the hate fire but just have to get through that to live how i want and i have friends who are family to me
FaebornStarseed Featured By Owner Sep 21, 2014  New member Hobbyist General Artist
I wrote an interesting comparison, maybe I'll post it sometime, about comparing a trans* person's feelings to 2 of the normal 5 senses.
treager-sama Featured By Owner Feb 23, 2014  Hobbyist Interface Designer
Absolutely agree... if I could have been born a AVERAGE CIS-GENDERED FEMALE... then I would have been 100% happy with that, and my life would have been much simpler up to this point.
HugoMndz Featured By Owner Dec 5, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Finally! Someone who understands all this mess, and I can identify with!
tucraz Featured By Owner Nov 12, 2013  Student Traditional Artist

I love your statement:
I mean, you wouldn’t trust someone’s opinion on a movie if they never saw the movie, right?

I've had that 'Gay is a choice' stuff crammed down my throat all my life by all the straights. And all my life I fought the attraction I felt to many different people, the opposite sex being only one of the genders. I fought it. The only choice I made was to finally stop fighting something as natural to me as my height or hair color. So, yeah, I'm not listening to anyone anymore who hasn't read the actual playbook.

Wiinner159 Featured By Owner Sep 17, 2013
Description's right a non-trans like me wouldn't really understand what it's like to live the life trans do. But for me I feel that although I'll never truly understand why, it shouldn't mean I shouldn't at least try, I mean I've always wanted to be a person who doesn't care if another person's gay, lesbian, transsexual, etc.... and treat them all the same as a human being, which for me is a way of saying to give the person a chance before judging or any of that crap based of stereotypes or what was claimed to be true by someone who may not know the truth
Fairportfan Featured By Owner Aug 31, 2013

The question of whether a non-trans person can truly understand what it's like to be trans (or a straight person appreciate what it's like to be gay) puts me in mind of the punchline of the old joke, where the Pope is standing on his balcony, declaring that contraception is forbidden, and a housewife in the crowd below hollers:

"'Ey!  You no play-a da game, you no make-a da rule!"

hereru Featured By Owner May 4, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I agree. As a cisgendered, heterosexual person, I can never truly know--and therefore should never pretend to know--what the life experiences of a gay, lesbian, or transgendered person are like. Anyone who pretends that they can know, despite having never "been there" is just being ridiculous without realizing it.

The most that I could hope to offer is sympathy, and I wouldn't dream of being so presumptuous as to assume that I could empathize, or pass judgement.

Some people just need a reality check, and perhaps a healthy dose of respect and tolerance.
Ryu890 Featured By Owner Aug 29, 2012
*sighs* Its very easy to make such calls about things you don't understand. Just two days ago I got told that my transgenderism didn't exist because I couldn't "Logically explain it." This coming from a mother who loves her children, believes in God, and continually try's to enforce clear logical fallicies (I am the Mom, therefor I am right). It was bizarrely ironic...but it hurt nonetheless.

But I'm ranting. XP
Ryu890 Featured By Owner Mar 22, 2012
I can't be normal. "Normal" isn't me. I can't sacrifice who I am, in my attempt to be who I am!
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