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Here’s a fun fact that a lot of folks don’t realize - or at least, won’t accept - about transgendered people: for most of us, if we could just NOT be transgendered, we would. Although I hesitate to call it an entirely horrible experience in every way, it IS painful, troublesome, lonely and just generally unfortunate to have to be like this.
I’ve heard a lot of cisgendered people who seem to insist that we can just turn it off and stop being transgendered at any time (not much different from the argument that “being gay is a choice” really). But if someone’s never been in a situation like that or had such feelings, how can they make a claim like that and call it fact?
I mean, you wouldn’t trust someone’s opinion on a movie if they never saw the movie, right?
Just some food for thought, I suppose.
Rain, all characters and all other aspects of the story are copyright material belonging to me.
also, i dunno if you know this by now since this was posted like 4 years ago, but you should say 'transgender' not 'transgendered'. it's almost as if saying its temporary i guess? since it's like past tense and stuff.
I love your statement:
I mean, you wouldn’t trust someone’s opinion on a movie if they never saw the movie, right?
I've had that 'Gay is a choice' stuff crammed down my throat all my life by all the straights. And all my life I fought the attraction I felt to many different people, the opposite sex being only one of the genders. I fought it. The only choice I made was to finally stop fighting something as natural to me as my height or hair color. So, yeah, I'm not listening to anyone anymore who hasn't read the actual playbook.
The question of whether a non-trans person can truly understand what it's like to be trans (or a straight person appreciate what it's like to be gay) puts me in mind of the punchline of the old joke, where the Pope is standing on his balcony, declaring that contraception is forbidden, and a housewife in the crowd below hollers:
"'Ey! You no play-a da game, you no make-a da rule!"
The most that I could hope to offer is sympathy, and I wouldn't dream of being so presumptuous as to assume that I could empathize, or pass judgement.
Some people just need a reality check, and perhaps a healthy dose of respect and tolerance.
But I'm ranting. XP
I believe I'm transgendered for a reason, as opposed to being a 'normal' girl.
I wasn't upset my entire life. I just...gender didn't matter to me when I was young. Like, at all. All that mattered was video games....they were all I talked about. All I thought about. >_< It wasn't healthy, but it was my escape from much more pressing issues.
I've felt this way ever since I got out of there though. Ever since I started really interacting with society.
I guess..... *sighs* I'm not a typical trans-girl. And somehow....I always have this irrational fear that I won't be accepted among trans-circles, because I don't have those same exact feelings that are the 'norm' for trans-girls. >_<
Being the opposite gender really isn't that important to us as much as the feeling that we want to be normal. And in some way feel like we belong. No different than how natural girls feel out of place if they suffer from an estrogen deficency. It is discouraging to know things need to be "done" before you can really feel natural in your own skin because of a natural fluke that happened upon birth. But at the same time I can see what people mean that you can stop being transgender. But the only way that can possibly work is if you are able to learn to cope with the body you have rather than replacing the feelings you already have. Even though its easy to just live with the body we are given, at the same time we can never fully erase our feelings. So yeah, out of all the people that wishes us to be normal, we are probably the ones that want it the most.
I also agree that dispite Gavin's desire to help, it is true that the fear sometimes overwhelms our natural reasoning towards our special ones. Do we want to be ourselves, or do we want friends that can love us. It really is a scary thought thinking we can't have both. But sometimes it happens and it sometimes causes us to suffer because we rather not be alone. It really is a burden for all us. And sometimes that will also cause people to sto no matter the pain.
Nice layout with a simple back and fore relation. It works well since this really is like a argument type of page with Gavin on one side and Rain on the other. Thus emphasizing the burden within the page.
"I believe a person is normal only if the act like the person they feel they are. Changing your personality to fit what others expect of you is weird. You are who you are, regardless of what the world thinks of you. If your gay or bi or transgendered then that is your normal and you should be the you that you are deep inside your heart no matter what."
and that saying fits with my life beliefs... Those that try to pretend to be something their not just so others won't make fun of them are the odd ones... the ones that act on what they feel inside are the ones that are truly normal.
Sorry for the rant... This story just makes me remember some good friends...
People are always thinking I'm being needlessly melodramatic or trying to get attention (even though they bring it up, not me) but it just feels /wrong/ to me. I ended up accepting to wear a dress for my upcoming wedding but it was a huge sacrifice for me (fortunately my fiancé realises that. It's just very important to me, not that I can understand).
I'm a female, as far as I'm concerned, but in a dress, it's like wearing a costume at work. It's out of place, it's uncomfortable, it's not me. I'd probably feel less awkward, ridiculous and humiliated if I was just plain naked.
It's the whole "doll" thing, for me. I'm not that kind of female. Make-up, high heels, dresses, shaving, to some extent jewelry, it's just not me. I can get in the mood of doing it for a special occasion, just like I can accept to dress as a giant potato, but I'll never feel good looking or rather I'll never feel me-looking. I don't actually care if I can look /better/ that way, it would just not be me.
So I figure, on a different extent of course, that it's a similar feeling to be trans. Like, if people look at my legs in the street (if I'm wearing shorts) or comment on my hairs, it makes me feel sad and rejected, but the idea of shaving my legs is about as appealing to me as the idea of shaving my head. Although honestly I would probably mind the latter less.
I hope one day we reach an era where nobody cares and people just do what they wish without any judgement passed on them.
Anyway another good page of a fantastic comic, keep it up ^_^
As for what this page relates well i guess it will hit home or close to it for most ppl that are either TG, CD, gay or lesbian nya cause come on if some of this tells you their life is rose colored and they never envountered a person like this they probably are laying a bit or are the most lucky persons int he world nya
Normal shouldnt be what society dictates it has to be how each an every one feels comfortable on their own skin and i guess especially TG ppl can really understand this cause for them being normal is going trough all the transition just for them to feel normal
Loved the page and the way the comic is going and how one can relate to events and emotions so easily nya girl never stop writing cause you have a talent like very few ppl nya ^-^
"You've got to believe me, Gavin. You were my only friend. You meant the world to me.
"That's why I couldn't tell you! I didn't want to risk losing you."
That's how I would've written it (I haven't written anything substantial, though, so don't take me too seriously). I think the problem with Rain's dialoge in panel two is that it's too sterile. After digging up so much of her past, I think she'd speak with a bit more emotion (and "this made you an important person in my life" sounds impersonal and vacant).
But, I step back. You are the writer, and as such, you are the most in-tune with your characters, and the only one fit to tell their story. I enjoy and respect your writing style, and I eagerly await more Rain!
If I had to quantify... the sentence feels too long for it, and I'm not sure whether one would say "this" or "that" gramaer wise. Personally, I'd probably just say "You were the only friend in my life, back then; you were... important to me.Despite that, I still couldn't risk telling you about this back then..." or something of that nature, but I don't know if that's really a "Rain" way to phrase it, or just my personal tastes.
I'm pretty sensitive to dialogue - but sometimes it's hard to tell whether a line really _is_ unnatrual, or if it's just an idiosyncratic bit of phrasing, or even just a different way of putting things than I'm used to. (It does feel a little awkward - and a little formal, even - to me, though. )
I enjoyed the page as a whole regardless, though.
Let's hope he doesn't.
(Er... sorry.... )
Serioualy, though, I like how Rain is finally being direct and authentic with Gavin. I think that one of the problems earlier on (and one cause of their falling-out) was that Rain never explained to Gavin why she is the way she is (to be fair, Gavin didn't give her much of a chance). Gavin thought, at first, that Rain wanted to be a girl and abandon her past, when in fact those were things she needed to do. I foun her last line very interesting: "But in to be normal, this is what I have to do, no matter how much of a nuisance it is." One would think that if she wants to be normal, she would just live as a boy. Yet, for whatever reason, she cannot. Rain feels a consuming need to be a girl, so to live normally, she must pretend that she is completely female. And that, I suppose, is the curse suffered by transgenders everywhere.
This page also brings up the distinction between "want" and "need", which I think is a great discussion. Are needs purely physical (food, water, shelter), or can needs be emotional as well (family, identity)? Although Rain could physically live as a male (she did so for most of her life so far), I wonder if the mental and emotional anguish (caused by her being something she doesn't want to be) would be too much for her to bear. Also, is a need just a very strong want, or are the two distinct? People often want various, sometimes contradictory, things at one time, to varying degrees. Does a kleptomaniac strongly want to steal things, or does he need to steal? Does an anorexic strongly want to deny herself food, or does she need to (in either case, going against the physical need for food)? Does a want that the person hasn't the will or the desire to resist then become a need? I don't have the answers, but I know this can be a contentious subject.
Getting back to the actual page, however, I really like how you use character's poses to convey their feelings. Gavin, with his hands behind his back and his face down, looks guilt-wracked and penitent. Meanwhile, Rain goes from being sorrowful (head down) to adamant (hands on chest) to explanatory (index finger raised). And of course, the hand-on-the-head is a classic pose of confusion.
Yet another great page of Rain-Gavin dialogue. Thy're both very complex characters with a very complicated relationship, and I love seeing them developed.
This was certainly an interesting page and it gives a good insight into Rain's character as well as being a good conversation starter.
Reading that description reminded me of an old quote from a british philosopher, "the ignorant are always so sure of themselves whilst the wisest are filled with doubts". It doesn't matter completly and utterly wrong these people are, they'll hold onto their beliefs because it's much simpler than trying to comprehend the fact that sometimes there are people that can't accept their gender.
Hell even as a....oh feck it, austic person I've come across this crap, my favorite being a youtuber who claimed that all autisic people are self-diagonosed misfits who use that word to explain away their poor social skills (that's so ignorant it's hilarious and sick making at the same time).
I won this year in the ecr cathegory (we saw psychology and all that, analyses and stuff)(don't worry I'm not here to brag XD)
and man I think this is brilliant, the plot, the story, the way they react it's amazing
ppl can relate
anyway that's my personnal opinion
And I don't mean to pry, but what does "gq" stand for?